As a working mother, I am always on the go. On average, I work more than 40hrs a week managing programs at the nonprofit organization I work for. I work over 40hr for the sleep training business I own. My daughter, the princess, spends a full day at school and spends over 10hrs a week at dance, a couple hours for choir and then at least an hour with student council so to say that we are busy is an understatement.
This weekend we decided to have some us time. Being the mother of a preteen girl, it is important that I take the time and enjoy her presence. So I decided to have an impromptu Mommy-Daughter weekend.
On Friday, we went to the mall, we shopped around our favorite stores and had dinner for dessert. Then we came home and watched Netflix in my bed. This was an opportunity for simple conversations about how things are going. We talked about school and her friends. But not in a way where she gave me the boring answers. We literally chatted and had girl talk. While watching Netflix, I let her choose what to watch. It’s so cool to watch your baby growing up. She is learning to operate everything on her own and picking shows that work for us both versus picking something that only she would enjoy.
Saturday, we started with a Starbucks date!
Then we attended a Cookies and Confidence class, hosted by a friend who has her own nonprofit to encourage others. There were speakers who did crafts and gave advice about being proud of who you are. We even were able to decorate cookies and eat them. It was great to be in a space reminding her that she is truly fearfully and wonderfully made!
Next, we went to another mall and did some shopping, also finding new makeup for the competition season. This gave me to chance to remind her how beautiful she is. We talked about skincare and picked out a line to help keep her face clean as she is starting to deal with acne. We found a foundation that gives a natural look and its sweat proof, perfect for dancing and just being a preteen running around.
Although it was a no work weekend, the princess had solo practice, so I put on my dance hat and went to watch her. I did not plan or blog, I put my phone and stuff away and focused on her. I was able to see the growth from this year and it was amazing. This allowed me to remind her that she is truly awesome and its okay to make mistakes but when you keep practicing and don’t give up, you make progress.
We finished the evening by putting up our Christmas tree. Another thing that is fun for us to do together. This was time for me to teach her the importance of teamwork. As an only child, she has learned to do things on her own. Thankfully she does team competitive dance so she is learning to work as a team at school and at the studio. However, at home, we are usually focused on our own stuff.
Sunday, we went to church and lunch. We finished our Mommy-Daughter weekend off with a movie date.
It was a great weekend. And for once, I did not have to argue with her. She even said, “Mommy thank you for hanging out with me this weekend, it was fun!” Sometimes a girl just needs her mommy. She needs to be reminded that in the midst of everything I do, she is my priority. And that’s what this weekend was all about.
If you have a child or children, take the time to devote to them. It’s just as important as it is to have a date with your significant other. People need to feel appreciated and little people are included in this. So I challenge you to take at least one hour this week to have time with a child that is focused totally on him/her and see how that child just lights up.