One of the things that many people forget about is the importance of their support system. People go into depression and can fall into poverty due to the lack of having people catch them before the fall. Previously, I wrote about my swim team, the people that would swim as far as necessary to make sure I am okay. My team is literally my everything. Without them, I do not know where I would be.
Adulting is hard, being a Mommy is super hard and having a community of people there for you is so important. Your life team needs to be diverse and include people of different backgrounds and focuses, however they need to have morals and values very similar to your own.
So I have put together a list of characteristics that can be helpful for those part of your “life team”:
1) Miss Positive
This is the friend that reminds you that it doesn’t matter if the glass is half full or not but that you should appreciate the cup. Having a Miss Positive is important to remind you that it’s okay to make mistakes, constantly reminding you of living your best life! She is the one who reminds you about your faith in God and continues to pray through any and every situation with you.
2) Mr. Funny Man
This is the person that can always make you laugh. Laughter is truly the best medicine. You need someone that can make you laugh when you feel like nothing is going right.
3) Mrs. Mentor
This person has done what you want you to want to be doing. This is the one that can give you advice based on their life experiences. According to an article I read in Forbes magazine, good mentors help you set measurable goals, never let you settle and become complacent, but most importantly they never let you settle and become complacent.
4) Mr. Energizer Bunny
This person will keep you going when feel like you can’t keep going, this person gives you the energy push you need. This is the person that will pull you when you can’t do it on your own. This is your super fun friend. They make sure you don’t forget to have fun in the midst of everything else on your plate. They literally will make sure you keep going.
5) Little Miss Counselor
This person is your confidant. You can share your deepest secrets and vent when needed knowing the discussions are confidential. Sometimes we just need someone to listen and that’s what this person does.
6) Dr. Mom
The person who is going to be supportive but push you to best self. This person will tell you when you need to slow down and when you need to go harder. They remind you not to forget your mental and emotional health. They want you to do what you and be happy yet make sure that you are healthy in the process! This person is constantly praying that you get it right.
7) The Judge
The person who will call you out when needed. This person is not your cheerleader. This is the person that flat out says you are wrong when you are making bad decisions. They will call you out when it’s your fault. This person is the angel on your shoulder when no matter what the outside world is trying to tell you, they will remain honest. They are your personal justice system.
These may be 7 different people or they may be a combination of a few. Luckily for me, my swim team members are all of the above. They are my safety net. They are my best friends. They are everything I could ever ask for in friends. They are the people who love me and I love them too!
Make sure you have people in your life that genuinely want the best for you!
I am a woman of God who has been given the opportunity and grace to lead others to their destiny but fails daily at making Christlike decisions. I am also a mother who loves her child more than life but there are days I feel like my child has taken all my marbles and threw them in the pool.
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